“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
– Frank Herbert
The Terrible Fear of Failure
Imagine you’re sitting in a meeting. You have something important to say. You’re waiting for your turn to speak. As your chance gets closer and closer, you start sweating, you start repeating the words in your mind. You dare not stutter or mix your words. You’re up next. Suddenly, what you wanted to say does not feel that important or relevant anymore. People will brush you aside, or worst, just ignore what you are saying. You are in your own head and don’t even hear the other speakers anymore.
You decide to challenge yourself and speak anyway. Sure as hell, your fears come true, you stutter and fumble, it looks like your audience doesn’t seem interested. Maybe someone else touched on the subject.
The rest of the day all you can think about is how you failed that morning.
My question is always; did I bring this on myself, is this a self-fulfilling prophecy? This is how I envisioned the outcome, and that’s exactly how it happened. Could it have been different if I saw a different outcome? Maybe and hopefully the answer to that is yes.
Let’s explore what fear is and how it can be overcome and obliterated.
What Fear Means To Me
It’s the cause of crippling procrastination.
It prevents me from achieving any goal and even prevents me from setting and attempting to achieve goals.
It causes analysis paralysis and perfectionism. It causes massive overwhelm. Fear causes me to not do what needs to be done. This, in turn leads to overthinking, stress and worries.
Fear destroys our greatness. You always hear people say: “If only I started earlier.”
The graveyards are filled with painters, musicians, writers, poets that never chased their dreams, that only saw their greatness in their own heads. They never stepped up and did what they needed to do. Fear prevented them from taking action and kept them stagnant right till the end.
This will not happen to us!
How will we overcome it
Push through my boundaries. Take away any excuses. Just do what needs to be done.
Face my fears on a daily basis and take massive action. Do not give in to fear. Conquer it and move forward. Take action even when I’m scared or doubtful, just move forward.
Fear is only in my head, it is there to warn me of dangers, but is mostly irrational. My mind tries to protect me from things that I don’t need protection from. Instead of protecting me like it should, it’s holding me back from achieving anything.
I realize that every time I let fear stop me, I’m doing people that depend on me a massive disservice. I know what to do to help others, to let others achieve the same success, but fear prevented me from doing what I needed to do most.
It prevented me from living the way I want, and traveling to where I want. It destroyed my freedom.
Here Is My Manifesto:
Do what needs to be done and take action
Always see a positive outcome
Never again will I give in to fear
I will feel it when it shows up, and act regardless of its presence
Never again will it stop me from doing what needs to be done
Never again will I let fear cause me stress and anxiety
I will overcome it and help others to overcome it
There is no time to be afraid
Do what seems to be impossible
Fail, stand up, try again
Accept the challenge
Act in spite doubt, fear, worries
Forget what others will say
Speak up, make myself heard
Make my presence felt
Stop hiding, face the world
The world is filled with wonderful opportunities
Explore, conquer, live your life
Monitor my inner dialogue
Get rid of what does not serve me
I will share my art and what I’ve learnt
My voice will be heard, the world needs me
Every day I will put a smile on someone’s face
I will not shrink to let others feel more secure
I will let my light shine
I will direct all my focus and energy to the task at hand,
And finish what I started
I will live with intention and purpose
I will be intentional in thoughts, words, and action
I will place execution before perfection
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Marianne Williamson
Feel free to share in the comments how you fight and overcome your fears.